Sex On The First Date: Good Or Bad?

By Jamenise Wilson

In today’s society, it’s common for men and women to engage in casual sex. It has become apart of a lifestyle for many; but does having sex on the first date ruin the chances of a male taking you seriously? Let’s think about that for a second…yes it does!

If you are seeking a fulfilling relationship from your male companion, jumping in the bed with him is not the way to go. This is for the women who are looking for a meaningful relationship. How do you expect a man to take you home to momma if he only sees you as a sex object and nothing more? How can you get mad at him when he calls you for sex if that is what the relationship was based on all the time? To end well you have to start well, and that means keeping the cookie jar closed until the time is right. If the mental aspect of the relationship is blossoming when the time is right, the sex will be better than ever.

Some ladies tend to take the chemistry aspect of the relationship and turn it into something more than it really is. Chemistry is nice to have, but it does not hold a relationship together in the long run. If we are talking long-term as far as relationships go, then we need to think about what factors we have in common and so on. With all these factors to consider, one would want to take the time and think about it before jumping in the bed even comes into play.

As women we go off of emotions and whether we like it or not, when we have sex, emotions get involved, but that is not always the case with men. Lust is always mistaken for love, and when you’re feelings are involved, why take the chance?

Having sex on the first date is not worth all the heartache and pain that it will bring in the long run. Taking things slow could be the best thing that ever happened for you and your relationship.

GMO Poll

Sex on a first date has been a debated topic since, well, forever. What do you think about getting “down” on the first night as Monica put it in her 1998 hit song “First Night.” Have you done it (so to speak) and if you have, what happened after? Do you agree with Jamenise – are emotions always a factor or can girls really just wanna have “fun” – so to speak?

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Jamenise’s Facts: Jamenise Wilson is a recent graduate of Tennessee State University. She enjoys writing poetry, urban fiction, and music. Jamenise also created the black Soap Opera “Ebony Heights.” Ebony Heights is posted every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday on the blog www.sincerelymissthang.com. She can be contacted at Jamenise@glossmagazineonline.com.